December 23rd, 2011 by Andrew

Ricardo Mon­tal­bán is unim­pressed with your efforts.

At risk of sound­ing like a pompous ass, I have style. I believe this because I get a lot of com­pli­ments on my choices in dress. Walk­ing down the street I get asked for my advice a lot, or asked where I buy things, and do I always look this way? I’ve been caught on the street a hand­ful of times by Asheville Street Style, inter­viewed by the Urban News, and reg­u­larly advise my friends on what to wear to meet For­tune 500 exec­u­tives in China or on a first date. Fine, I sur­ren­der already — I have style.

And I’m into that, I’m into what is styl­ish. But — I’m not into fash­ion. I don’t have a well thumbed copy of the Sep­tem­ber Vogue on my night stand, and though I sub­scribe to the Sun­day edi­tion of the New York times, I don’t luridly gaze at the lat­est offer­ings of the major design­ers in the Style Mag­a­zine. I don’t care what’s in or what’s out, if it’s past Labor Day or if it was recently seen being worn by Lady Gaga at Occupy Wall Street. Those are use­less ways to think about what will make you look awesome.

What’s the dif­fer­ence between style and fash­ion? Style is for­ever, fash­ion is for today. Style is acces­si­ble for every­one, fash­ion is passé by the time every­one iden­ti­fies it. Style belongs to you, fash­ion belongs to wealthy hair­less eccentrics in Milan that feed caviar to tiny inbred dogs.

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October 21st, 2008 by Andrew

This is Abra­ham Maslow’s Hier­ar­chy of Human Needs. I think it’s a mar­velous approach to self-improvement. It was a hand­out in my Literature-based Research class, but I’ve learned that it embod­ies the human­ist school of psy­chol­ogy, which Maslow founded.

  1. Phys­i­o­log­i­cal: the need to sat­isfy hunger, thirst, and other bod­ily preoccupations.
  2. Safety/security: the need to be out of danger.
  3. Belong­ing­ness: the need for affil­i­a­tion with oth­ers, a sense of being loved or accepted.
  4. Esteem: the need to gain approval and recognition.
  5. Cog­ni­tive: the need to know, to under­stand, to explore
  6. Aes­thetic: the need for sym­me­try, order and beauty.
  7. Self-actualization: the need to expe­ri­ence self ful­fill­ment, to real­ize one’s full poten­tial. The self actu­al­iz­ing per­son is one who is:
    • Not afraid of the unknown and can tol­er­ate doubt, uncer­tainty, and ten­ta­tive­ness that accom­pany the per­cep­tion of the new and unfamiliar.
    • Not ashamed of his/her human nature with its short­com­ings, imper­fec­tions, frail­ties, and weaknesses.
    • Not ham­pered by con­ven­tions but does not flout con­ven­tions merely for the sake of doing so.
    • Missioned-oriented on the basis of an unco­erced sense of respon­si­bil­ity, duty, or obligation.
    • Respect­ful of oth­ers and tries to under­stand their perspectives.
    • Attuned to the oppor­tu­ni­ties of soli­tude and pri­vacy as well as of social interaction.
    • Fully con­scious of per­sonal respon­si­bil­ity for actions and for growth, not blam­ing oth­ers or charg­ing oth­ers with the task motivation.
    • In awe of the won­der of the every­day world and of life’s lim­it­less possibilities.
    • Pos­sessed of a deep and uncon­di­tional empa­thy for human beings in general.
    • Hum­ble in his/her recog­ni­tion of what he/she knows in com­par­i­son to what could be known and acknowl­edges oth­ers as teach­ers, respect­ing every­one as a poten­tial con­trib­u­tor to his/her knowledge.
    • Highly eth­i­cal and at least intu­itively aware of Kant’s famous cat­e­gor­i­cal imper­a­tive, which charges us to “Act only accord­ing to prin­ci­ples which we can will also to be uni­ver­sal laws.”
    • Philo­soph­i­cal and pos­sessed of an unhos­tile sense of humor
    • Vision­ary but not inclined to impose his/her beliefs on others.
    • Alive!
    1. Self-transcendence: the need to con­nect to some­thing beyond the self and to move toward a mean­ing­ful self­less­ness through that connectedness.
    Maybe this is old news for some, but it’s given me plenty to think about.

    July 13th, 2008 by Andrew

    I’ve been try­ing to start a new habit: Write a list at the begin­ning of every day.

    Just that, no other require­ments. Nice and sim­ple, plenty of room for cre­ativ­ity. Even top­ics that might not make one think of putting them in a list, abstract, strange, inap­pro­pri­ate, untruth­ful, exag­ger­ated. Just a morn­ing mind­ben­der. Here’s the first.

    Favorite out­door activities:

    • Using an axe
    • Chas­ing pedestrians
    • Chas­ing pedes­tri­ans with axe
    • Encas­ing ants and other insects in amber col­ored jello
    • Hang­ing pasta from trees in rev­er­ence to the F.S.M.
    • Har­vest­ing dig­nity from nat­ural essences
    • On warm days after a dry spell, find­ing those lit­tle dried clumps of dirt that explode when you throw them
    • Burn­ing effi­gies of cor­rupt 19th cen­tury politicians
    • Cre­at­ing a zen wood­chip garden
    • Spray­ing post car­rier with deer musk
    • Cre­at­ing ori­fices for Mother Nature